Why fighting never works – A Covid-19 perspective

 Stop the political squabbling already. Please. The Pandemic and the unhelpful response Thinking about the the facts of what is happening in our world with regards to the Covid-19 virus feels pretty horrific to me. And what makes me feel even worse? My thoughts about all of the political squabbling…on ALL sides. All of that energy […]

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How Greed

Here’s something to think about today.  Stop. Ask yourself, and really pay attention to the answer…. “How does it feel when I ask myself a question?”   Questions like, “Why is this happening?” “How do I fix this?” “Why isn’t this working?” “What’s wrong with me?” “How did I get myself into this situation?” “When will […]

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Gratitude: Practice Wanting What You Already Have

When we think about what we want, we usually don’t include what we already have. When we practice wanting what we already have, complaining goes out the window. People often say that they don’t want to do what they are doing, and yet, they wouldn’t be doing it if they really didn’t want to, deep […]

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Mirroring Emotions

Our child gets angry that quiet time isn’t over and then they become super mad when they don’t get their way.  THEN, we get mad because they are getting mad. We call this mirroring emotions, and it isn’t necessary.   It’s not really helpful when we let these tiny people and their “poor” behavior dictate […]

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Stop Being Stuck and Be Powerful

In life, we think that if something changed, we’d be happy. If someone changed, we would feel so much better. If something hadn’t happened, we could be who we want to be. If our circumstances were different, we could show up in the world and be the best versions of ourselves, ready to make a […]

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I Messed Up. Now What?

When we think of the word “Integrity” we link it to the idea of morality, to having strong moral values and principles. And when we (or others) do something that “lacks integrity,” we tend to judge ourselves, adding shame and guilt to the fact that we missed the mark. Did you know that there is […]

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How to Feel Better in One Easy Step

Sometimes something that looks pretty or sounds nice, isn’t.   Sometimes we pretend our beliefs about other people are just common sense and we hang onto these beliefs in order to justify ourselves and our own agenda and it keeps our own ego intact.   And we get a nice juicy payoff. We get to […]

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Manuals are for Appliances. Not Your Family.

Whenever we get a new appliance, I hear the same question. “Did you read the manual before you started to use that _________________ oven, blow-dryer, refrigerator? You’ll find it will work better for you if you understand how it works.”   Me: “It’s a TOASTER! SHOULDN’T it act like any other toaster?”   Joel: “You […]

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How to improve your child’s mental fitness

Today’s world is tricky to manage, to say the least, and yet as parents we worry that if the world is tricky for us to manage, how in the world are we to expect our kids to manage their emotional well-being in this fast-paced, demanding world that they live in? How do we help them […]

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Stop Fighting. Start Flourishing!

Stop Fighting. Start Flourishing You’re watching your children fight AGAIN! You want it to stop. They are driving you crazy. You can’t find a way to stop them. They won’t listen to you. You’ve tried everything and don’t know what to do. You’re exhausted. You think, “Someday they’ll regret the way they are treating each […]

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My Favorite Reads for Positive Change

I Have Always Loved Books. I remember as a young child, when our parents weren’t so afraid to let us roam the neighborhoods on our stingray bicycles, I would grab a nap sack, sneak my brother’s very cool bicycle from the garage, and head off to the library. I remember combing the shelves jammed with […]

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Take Care of Yourself So You Can Take Care of Your Children

You’re on an airplane and the flight attendant is giving instructions which we’ve heard a thousand times before. We hardly even process what they are telling us as we wait to race down the runway and take off for our new destination. How many of us really stop to think about how important it is […]

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